Introduction
The Punjabi community follows one of the two types of traditions - the Arya Samaj or Sanatan Dharm. In the
following sections, the wedding rituals performed by the Sanatanis have been
described.
Pre-Wedding Rituals
Roka
Once the match is finalised, a formal announcement is made through roka. The girl's
parents give sweets, fruits and token money to the boy. The boy's parents also
give a token of acceptance to the girl.
Shagun
This usually takes place one day prior to the
marriage. The relatives of the bride go to the groom's house with sweets, fruit,
gifts, clothes, etc. After the priest does Ganesh pooja and navagraha shanti,
gifts are given to the groom and his family. The parents of the bride present
clothes to the close relatives of the groom. Tilak is applied on the groom's
forehead which symbolises acceptance of the groom by the bride's
family.
Chunni Chadhana
After Shagun, the groom's family go to the bride's house. They carry dry fruits,
sweets, clothes, jewellery and cosmetics for the bride. In the presence of a
priest, the groom's mother blesses the girl by putting the auspicious things
like dry fruits and coconut in the girl's lap. She also covers the girl's head
with the chunni. The bride then changes into the clothes and jewellery received
from the groom's parents symbolising the acceptance of the bride by the groom's
parents. The bride's family offers a feast to the guests.
Gana
The Gana ceremony is performed separately for
both the groom and the bride. A priest does pooja and ties a red thread to the
bride's wrist in her house. The same custom is repeated with the groom in his
house. The thread has a supari, an iron ring, a shell and beads of mustard tied
to it in a small cloth. This is called the gana. This is for protection and to
ward off an evil eye. After this the bride or the groom do not step out of their
respective houses till the wedding ceremony is over.
Ladies Sangeet
This is the last party that the bride
to be gives her friends as a maiden. Women sing special marriage songs and play
the dholki. Most of the songs are lively, boisterous and worded for the
occasion. The songs range from making light fun of the groom and the in-laws, to
advising the bride how to lead her marital life to feeling sad about the girl
leaving her parents' home forever.