Pre-Wedding Rituals
Muhurtam
Muhurtam determining the auspicious part of the day for the marriage. The period that is considered
auspicious starts from 7.00 p.m. and goes on till the next day until about 11
am. Weddings don't usually take place in the months of Aashad,
Bhadrapad and Shunya.
Pendlikoothuru
This ceremony involves anointing the bride and the groom with oil and turmeric before bath.
The couple don new clothes following the bath. The bride-to-be wears flowers in
her hair. She adorns her forehead with a bindi or vermillion dot and wears
bangles on her wrists.
Snathakam
This ritual is performed at the bridegroom's house before the muhurtam. It is a sort of thread
ceremony that involves making him wear a silver thread on his body.
Kashi Yatra
After the recitation of Vedic verses, the groom pretends to leave for Kashi, a pilgrimage centre to devote himself to
God and a life of prayer. He carries a walking stick and other spartan
essentials with him and implies that he is not interested in becoming a
householder anymore. He relents and agrees to the marriage only after he is
stopped and persuaded by the bride's brother to fulfill his responsibilities as
a householder.
Mangala Snaanam
The bride and groom must take a Mangala Snaanam or an auspicious bath on the day of the wedding. The bath is
believed to cleanse and purify them and make them ready for the sacred rites
that are to follow.
Aarti
After the bath, the bride and groom are anointed with oil at their respective homes. Their families
perform aarti. The ceremony is significant as it carries with it the family's
prayer that the mind of the bride/groom be illuminated by wisdom.
Gauri Pooja
The bridegroom performs Ganesh Pooja in the mandapam or wedding
hall just before the marriage ceremony. Worshipping Ganesha he is revered as the
remover of all obstacles.
Ganesh Pooja
The bridegroom performs Ganesh Pooja in the mandapam or wedding hall just before the
marriage ceremony. Worshipping Ganesha is revered as the remover of all
obstacles.
Wedding Rituals
Kanyadaan
The Kanayadaan is that part of the marriage ceremony in which the
girl's family gives her away to the groom. Her maternal uncle carries the
bride-to-be in a bamboo basket to the mandapam. The bride and bridegroom are
separated by a curtain placed between them. They are not to see each other until
after the marriage ceremony. The priest invokes the blessings of the ancestors
belonging to the last seven generations of both families. The bride's parents
wash the groom's feet in a gesture that symbolises their belief that he is a
form of God to whom they now offer their daughter's hand.
Jeerakalla-Bellamu
After the priest recites the wedding shlokas from the Vedas, the bride and groom apply a
paste of cumin seeds (jeera) and jaggery on each other's hands. This is known as
Jeelakarra-Bellamu. The slightly bitter cumin and sweet jaggery when ground
together turn into an inseparable mixture. Communicating that the bride and
groom are supposed to become inseparable through life's bitter and sweet
times.
Madhuparkam
For the Madhuparkam, the bride wears a white cotton sari with a red border, while the groom dons a
white cotton dhoti, also with a red border. White signifies purity and chastity,
while red is a colour that represents strength.
Sumangli
The girl is accompanied by ten married women (Sumangalis). Six of
them hold plates full of rice and turmeric powder mixed together. The remaining
hold plates with small lamps made from a mixture of rice flour, sugar and milk.
Rice signifies abundance and lit lamps represent sweetness and light, two
qualities that the bride brings with her to this new phase of
life.
Tying of the Mangalsutra
The curtain between the two is removed at this stage. Prayers offered, the groom ties the two strings each with
a golden disc representing the mangalsutra separately around the girls neck with
three knots to represent the strength of their union physical, mental and
spiritual. The groom holds the bride's hand and gazes at the pole star or Dhruva
with her. The couple also look towards the stars Vasishta and Arundhati. These
stars always visible together have come to symbolise an inseparable
couple.
Kanyadaan Akshata
Having tied the mangalsutra, the couple now exchange garlands. Those present at the wedding
shower their blessings on the couple by sprinkling flowers and turmeric-coloured
rice (Akshata) on them.
Saptapadi
'Saptapadi' or seven steps are what the couple takes together, the bride's saree and the groom's
dhoti are tied together at one end in a knot. The groom prays for life-long
blessings with each step with the first step he prays for food that nourishes
them, with the second step he prays for strength, with the third for help in
honouring their vows, with the fourth for a comfortable life, with the fifth for
the health of their cattle, with the sixth for a life that survives the seasons,
and with the seventh for help in fulfilling religious duties. During this
ceremony, saris, ornaments and other gifts are offered to the couple and to
other family members.
Sthaalipaakam
The groom slips silver toe rings on the bride's feet. The girl is also adorned with a string of
black beads, to protect her from the evil eye.
Post - Wedding Rituals
Grihapravesh
The marriage ceremony over, the bride is taken to the groom's home for Griha Pravesh
(entering the house for the first time).
Uniting the mangalsutra
The two mangalsutras are united on a common thread 16 days after the wedding. An elder member of the family or
the husband himself can unite the two mangalsutras on a common thread. A few
black or golden beads are slipped between the two plates so that they don't
clash with each other. Signifying harmony between the two families. The bride
takes a bath and wears a new sari before wearing the mangalsutra on this day. 16
days are symbolic of the time needed by the bride to understand her husband's
family.